Rijsttafel apparently exists at this point mostly in N. Europe and maybe a few tourist hotels in Indonesia. It is a product of colonialism that the former Dutch colony would rather forget, from all I've read. The contrast between this and, for example, the popular coopting of French foods and techniques in Vietnam, says something about the Dutch brand of colonialism.
Re the Tommy's double chili, I suggest that you head over to the Diner, Dinner Grill (the two signs create the ambiguity). The burger certainly fits the Tommy's/Jay's mold, and the chili is pretty good. The grill man will make all reasonable accomodations, though I have never asked for chili on my burger.
Anne, do you mean steamed Maryland blue crabs? Stone crabs, from FL, we got.
There's always something missing, no matter how great a food city you are in. The LA board on CH pretty much agreed that paczki don't exist there. Toronto has a million Portuguese and Hong Kong places, but you can't find a decent taco to save your life. On balance, we (and LA and NY and the Bay Area) really have it good in terms of high-quality variety. Ethnic variety simply does not exist in most of the nations known for great food.