James Li, M.D. Mayo Clinic Asthma and Allergy specialist on alcohol allergies: (answering virtually the same questions you had)
Some people are more sensitive to the effects of alcohol than are others. However, this doesn't mean you have an alcohol allergy.
A true food allergy involves your immune system. In such cases, your immune system mistakenly identifies a specific food or a component of that food as a harmful substance. Your immune system triggers certain cells to produce immunoglobulin E (IgE) antibodies to fight the "enemy" food or food component. Signs and symptoms of food allergy include tingling in the mouth, hives, breathing difficulties and swelling of your lips, tongue or throat.
An alcohol allergy would be very uncommon. However, you could be allergic to other ingredients in an alcoholic beverage, such as wheat or sulfur dioxide, a preservative. There are also substances in some alcohol beverages such as wine that can cause flushing or even rashes.
Still, it's more likely that you have an alcohol intolerance — which means you are more sensitive to the normal effects of alcohol. Alcohol can cause a variety of immediate adverse effects on the body, including headache, rapid heartbeat, nausea or vomiting, heartburn, abdominal pain, nasal congestion or warm, red, itchy skin.
Many people of Asian descent experience an unusual flushing reaction after drinking alcohol — even in very small amounts. This is caused by a genetic disorder in which the body is unable to break down alcohol completely. Some research suggests that people who experience alcohol flush reaction may be at increased risk of alcohol-related conditions, such as cancer of the esophagus and liver disease.
The only solution to all of these problems is to avoid alcohol.
one thing to try would be a gluten-free beer or vodka. I have no idea if this is your actual problem, but it very may well be. Although, many people experience intolerance to gluten foods as well - but it's worth trying.
I know that Ketel one is gluten free - and i think a lot of other vodkas are. But many aren't - so it's something to look into.
I would try getting a sixer of Redbridge gluten free beer. It's made by AB, but my mom drinks it and actually does like it.
Also, maybe you should seek out an allergy specialist. If you can isolate what you're allergic to, you might be able to avoid it.
and remember - you can make your own alcohol at home in the U.S. So, if it actually turns out to be something
other than alcohol - it may be time to pick up a new homebrewing hobby so you can make your own custom recipes.