DanInLakeview wrote:What I mean by "showy" is that if the option was available, he could have just told us that (we didn't know to ask in the first instance) instead of saying he would check and then telling it was available. Not a big deal, but it all seemed staged to make it seem as if the restaurant was doing us a favor, which is odd because everything else about that restaurant is not pretentious.
Another explanation is that the waiter didn't know if the tasting menu was available when he first came to the table. While at the table he realized he should check with the chef. This seems more likely to me than the whole thing being staged. Remember, this isn't a restaurant that's doing tasting menus all the time and it's perfectly reasonable that the tasting menu isn't always available.
DanInLakeview wrote:Tasting menu was $70/person, I think. The description in advance was that the tasting menu would allow us to taste all of what the kitchen had to offer. We had several antipasti, three pastas, a fish, and dessert. My view is that a kitchen's presentation of fish is not the same as meat and a tasting menu should cover both. I could be wrong.
I went to a Paul Simon concert some years ago and he didn't play "Bridge over Troubled Waters". I was somewhat surprised and disappointed. But the overall concert was simply amazing when judged on what was played, rather than on what was not played.
The point of a tasting menu is that you put yourself in the chef's hands and let him or her choose what to serve. There is no reason to assume you'll get a little of everything. Perhaps there's a good reason for the omission of certain dishes.
I can certainly understand your disappointment in not getting one particular dish as part of your dinner, but that's the nature of these things. Next time, if there's something you'd especially like, ask if it can be incorporated into the menu.