Jlenart,
I agree, the most important thing is what's internal and what drives you, and I don't think you should ever cook or do anything to please someone else....but I think no matter how driven you are and how honest you are, sometimes it's tough to be completely objective about yourself.
Guys like Achatz or Keller....these dudes process feedback like you wouldn't believe. Consider how they solicit micro-feedback by watching almost every plate that comes back from the dining room to see if they are clean or how they've been eaten, because they want to know even minute by minute how they're doing in terms of delivering to the customers. They then process the feedback according to their standard and decide if it has merit or not. If it doesn't, they don't heed it. If it does, they might make an adjustment...it is why they are the best in the world.
Likewise, while I strive as a writer to work against an internal standard, I very much value the opinions of this forum, and I've learned quite a bit from the criticism and accolades I've received here, and I've made adjustments in what I do and how I do it. I don't agree with Gypsyboy's fervent beliefs on the role of a critic, so I don't think I'll ever heed those ideas, but I do think, he's right about the idea that at some point you have to write the stories you want to see, instead of asking others to do so.
The role of a food "journalist" is a many faceted one and many people perform it differently...as a freelancer, I do everything from write critical reviews, to interview chefs, to writing long form features, to writing a weekly opinion column, to writing books.
Each of those roles requires something different, from reporting facts to editorializing. It depends on the role, but I still think they're all journalistic ones...the important thing is to maintain a journalistic standard no matter what you do, i.e. be ethical in how you perform that role. For example, if I interview a chef and he's seen my face, I won't/can't do a critical review of his restaurant...
Do I think I'm on a mission from god to tell chefs how to run their business? Hell no. But, as a person who enjoys food, cooks it and who lives, breathes, studies and devotes more time to it than anything else in my life (outside of my wife and son), I think I have a perspective to share. I try to take food writing as seriously as chefs do cooking. This isn't some lark for me or a sideline. I write very little about other topics, and this is a very conscious choice. The great chefs often come in for prep at 10 a.m. and stay until 1 a.m. until service is done. I try to ape that model as much as is humanly possible. I tend to write about food even in my spare time as a hobby, as I am now at 1 a.m. on a Thursday night, because I love what I do and I want to get better at it every moment.
I hope that by being serious, devoted, candid and fair about what I see, my criticisms are worth something. Bottom line, I want Chicago to be the best food city in America and I want us to have as much good responsibly produced and tasty food as possible, and I want our chefs and writers to be the best as well....my way of working towards these goals is to use whatever talents I have...mine are observing, drawing on what I've studied and tasted, and writing about it. Then it's up to others to decide how they want to use what words I've written.
I've been giving a lot of thought lately to how the critical review process, especially in papers is so one sided....my word may be the first in some cases, but it should never be the last one...I think restauranteurs and chefs should be given an opportunity to rebut a critic on a similar level.
Toward that end, I'd welcome any chef or interview subject who felt I had missed something or didn't write something fairly to write a rebuttal and I'd be more than happy to publish it, unedited, on my website alongside the original if possible (some contractual obligations don't allow reprints).
It would even be better to use the comments section or places like this forum to continue the dialogue beyond the rebuttal after that...