Servers are human and OFTEN have to take on kitchen "mishaps" alone.
I have had a waiter tell me NOT to order something on the menu and I appreciated it.
Restaurants with any right mind have servers taste the specials instead of describing a dish by memorizing the description from a piece of paper.
It can be a CATTY business. Yes, the server should have said it out of range of guests, but have you ever heard some of the stuff people say not realizing someone just might be listening in...
Not to mention how servers might be treated by the managers and/or kitchen staff. I worked 8 hour shifts without any break or food offered, but I needed the $12 an hour.
It did suck, but once Mayor Daley called me "honey" and at moments like that, it was well worth the pain.
Reading is a right. Censorship is not.