Riddlemay--perhaps the word "attack" was a bit much, but you did continue to bring up the waitresses' apparent fault through several previous posts, even after Buddy tried to deflect the blame. I was reacting more to the perceived tone behind the words you wrote--"it's
her job" than the actual words, because I hear it said like that every day with a sense of entitlement that sometimes can stem from a vague misunderstanding of how a server's job really works in many cases, such as the ability to do substitutions (as in "just do it, it's your job, isn't it?"). You may or may not have meant it that way, but that's how I heard it in my head, for better or worse.
I would just make a general comment that many complaints in this forum and in real life about service come from such a misunderstanding, as it's hard to explain to the public that the chef and kitchen dictates so much about how a restaurant can run; that is, if it's a chef-driven restaurant or very small. Substitutions are greatly restricted or not allowed; pacing is controlled by the kitchen, etc. It's hard to read comments complaining about service being "slow" because someone waited 50 minutes for their burger, when a burger apparently should only take 5-10 minutes to prepare. As others have mentioned, it's not service that's slow, it's that Kuma's can only make six burgers at a time. This is something people should consider when going to eat at certain places.
And G Wiv, it's a generalization based on through reading of many threads here in which people turn one negative experience into how it must be going at a restaurant nowadays, or in which the service staff is blamed for events beyond their control. I've even seen threads become a referendum on particular servers, who were mentioned by name. So this isn't limited to riddlemay's comments. She's not close to being the only person complaining in this very thread either (and her complaint is not even based on her own experience at Kuma's, which has been completely positive, but on her interpretation of someone else's story). I can only say that upon reading Buddy's story, I probably would have acted similarly if I had been that server, without apology, and would have had problems dealing with some of his group. Those girls at Kuma's have to endure a lot working there. The fact that the server didn't lose it--well, hats off to her in my opinion. And that's what this is about, offering the opinion of someone on the other side of the equation.