Each year we have a conundrum at Thanksgiving: MIL only likes stuffing if it's cooked in the bird and her son has celiac - can't eat the bird if the stuffing is cooked in it. She won't eat cornbread stuffing, so we end up with a standoff. She wants two turkeys so one can be stuffed; I want one turkey and stuffing in a pan.
I wouldn't care if we needed two turkeys, however of the 12 of us, four have already eaten at the in-laws before arriving, one is a vegetarian, and two do not like turkey (but love chicken).
This year, I managed to "win" by offering to smoke the turkey. MIL has decided to make a chicken so she gets her in-the-bird stuffing and the two who like chicken have something to eat. Ah, negotiating family gatherings....
I haven't smoked a turkey yet, so that should be a fun experience. Beyond brining it, I haven't much thought of what I need to do to it.
The menu? Not sure as it's in MIL's hands. I only know that it probably won't be much different than the last Thanksgiving, or the one before that. I see each holiday as an opportunity to try things I've never tried before. My in-laws see each holiday as a time to have the foods they love and associate with happy family gatherings. I actually wish I was better at appreciating their perspective. I imagine they have a deeper sense of place and belonging, associating food with happy memories or particular people, jokes, songs, etc.
No doubt, having instigated the smoked turkey, I'll still try to work on encouraging a replacement for the cranberry sauce, AKA a Jello mold.