What a great topic! I have so many formative dining experineces that it would be hard to just limit it to one.
My family liked to eat out alot. This, during a time when the concept of "kid friendly" was nonexistent. We were expected to be on our best behavior and knew that eating out was a privilege. We used to go to The Parthenon quite often and that and Pizzeria Uno were some of my earliest memories. My dad knew the cook at Uno's and she would let us come into the kitchen every now and then. Benihana was also a favorite of ours, mostly my brother, and that place had alot to do with why he is a chef today.
My summers were spent in Mexico and some of my favorite meals were always in the markets. My aunts would go the the Merced market every Saturday morning to buy the weekly provisions. My mom came from a big family and when I was a kid, I still had a bunch of aunts and uncles living at home. My brother and I would get up at the crack of dawn so we could go with them. The first order of business was breakfast, and my aunts knew where all the good eats were. My regulars were either enchiladas with mole or huaraches. I only recently discovered the Ricos Huaraches at the Maxwell street market and they are truly the closest I have ever had here in Chicago to the real deal.
My most embarassing meal ever was when I was a teen. My Dad took me out to Ireland's on LaSalle for a lobster dinner to celebrate my (ahem) "becoming a woman" and he proceeded to tell the waiter of this momentous occasion. I wanted to crawl under the table.
On Christmas Eve we used to go to Burhop's downtown (can't remember the exact location) to buy lobster and crab and then to Sam's for wine (when it was still in the old building on North and Halsted and you had to pass through the gauntlet of winos to get in and then downstairs to the fine wine section).
My first formal dinner party was an event hosted in honor of my grandfather at the home of my mom's best friend. I must have been 14. She laid out the best china, crystal, and flatware. It was back in the 70's and I still recall the shrimp in aspic starter and probably my first taste of a great Bordeaux.
I went on to start a tradition in high school where my girlfriends and I would get together around Christmas and cook a formal meal, wear fancy clothes and drink great wine. Well, I probably wouldn't consider it great wine now, but back when we were not even old enough to drink, a bottle of Robert Mondavi was a pretty big deal.
I will never forget my summer in Spain when I discovered olives and paella, cooked by a relative over an open pit flame at their summer home on the mediterranean, south of Valencia. It was the real deal.
Food has been such an important part of my life and it was these formative meals that made me always seek out street food, market vendors, neighborhood joints, and top destination tables all over the world.
I feel lucky.
"Dis-moi ce que tu manges, je te dirai ce que tu es."
~ Brillat-Savarin ~