My parents were the last of a generation. They came along in the late 40s and early 50s and graduated college in the late 50s. They clearly exhibited an old school mentality regarding many things as opposed to their counterparts who would attend colleges in the 60s.
One of my parents' rules that they observed without ceasing was that children were meant to be seen rather than heard. What that meant from the point of view of scoialization is that you didn't really take your children out into a public place such as nice restaurant or airplane until they knew how to act (a position that I have developed a great affinity for during my fifth consecutive hour of parentally indifferent seat kicking on a trans continental airline flight or second hour of thre year old temper tantrums during a dinner at a nice place).
For myself and my siblings, the point of our first introduction to society outside of the fast food and neighborhood playground society that we knew so well, was a much anticipated trip to join the tail end of my father's business trip to Los Angeles which would include a trip to Disneyland, then a drive up the coast to San Francisco. I was 8, my sister 10 and my brother 12 (my parents were so orderly).
One night in San Francisco, my father announced that we were going to have a Chinese banquet for dinner at Johnny Kan's, the San francisco Dim Sum institution which, in 1974, was probably considered one of the better Chinese restaurants in San Francisco.
Dad probably didn't understand at the time that dim sum was served at lunch time. So, we were the only people inn the dining room for dinner that night. What we were served was different than the sweet and sour pork type Chinese that I grew up eating as a boy in Georgia and South Carolina.
Instead of the dim sum feast that may father anticipated, we were served such delicacies bits of chicken marinated in soy sauce and baked in rice paper, steamed buns, and green tea ice cream for dessert. It wasn't bad at all and it made my dad very proud to be able introduce his family to such exotic and authentic cuisine as "real chin-es" as he would call it.
Thereafter, when finishing a meal in any Chinese American restaurant in the small town where he lived, my dad always made the point of calling over the owner to tell him "that's the finest Chinese meal I have eaten since Johnny Kan's." The owner always smiled and nodded his head somewhat embarrassed that he had no idea what dad was talking about. As far as dad was concerned, emulating Johnny Kan's was the model by which any "enterprsing chinaman" (dad's term) would base his own success on.
30 years later, I sought out Johnny Kan's for lunch during a reflective moment on a trip to San Francisco. The room was still as garishly ornate as it had been in the 70s and the dim sum wasn't at all bad.
In 1974, Johnny Kan's was as fine or exotic as restaurants got for a kid who thought KFC was the place that one went for a special meal.
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YourPalWill on March 12th, 2005, 1:29 pm, edited 1 time in total.