Hi,
Soured milk in baked goods is an acceptable reuse, though usually using baking soda and not baking powder. Soured milk gently heated, then drained is a method to make farmer's cheese.
What is not a good idea is to drink soured milk. My Dad has done it for years, which I kept telling him was pretty risky. Recently he finally did run into trouble and has sworn off drinking sour milk.
I have heard of people who think buttermilk isn't as sour as it should be. They let it mature in the refrigerator for weeks until it is "just right."
Everything your relative made with sour milk can be made with buttermilk.
So what is the controversy?