Well, just eyeballing the recipes, I'd start by making the following changes in the 'Stouffer's' Romanoff recipe:
Breakstone's sour half and half (reduced fat sour cream); it's fine, but I'm tempted to go for Breakstone's full strength instead.
2% milk -- how on earth can one use skim milk in this???
skip the cottage cheese
one-third finely grated real aged Parmesan, two-thirds finely shredded/grated Tillamook extra-sharp cheddar or Black Diamond extra-sharp cheddar; at least 3/4 cup grated/shredded total
2 tbsp. Wondra flour, mixed into the grated cheeses before you add those to anything else
regular Smart Balance margarine instead of butter (that's the one place it's safe to cut calories)
2 tbsp. avocado oil instead of the other oils (avocado has no lingering taste other than richness, and it's a nice monosaturated fat)
onion powder, a tiny pinch of garlic powder, a pinch of white pepper, and a few drops each of regular Tabasco and Lea & Perrins white-wine Worcestershire (not enough to notice the Tabasco, just enough to keep things from tasting boring)
wide goulash noodles
I'd make the sauce first, on a gentle simmer while the noodles were cooking and adding the cheeses last, bit by bit and stirring all the while; then drain (save some of the pasta water from the bottom, with the starch in it), butter (Smart Balance) them and drop them into the sauce, mixing well, then adjust the taste by adding more seasoning or grated cheese, as needed. If the sauce starts to break once you've added the noodles, add a tablespoon or two of the pasta water and mix well. And then serve immediately, possibly with a bit of minced Italian parsley over the top.
Let me know if this works for you, Katie.
Actually, that sounds so good that now I'm wondering why I don't have any goulash noodles in the house ... !
I love you, but I love paprikash more. This is what it means to be Hungarian. -- anonymous Magyar