abe_froeman wrote:Do you know if you always have to decide on a menu ahead of time if you get a private room, or will any place just let people order off the menu?
That's a question to ask their banquet coordinator. Most places can do it either way, but whether you want to do so is likely to depend on the number of people in the group; the larger the group, the more difficult it is for them to take everyone's order and, even more important, to bring out all the food at the same time. I'm not saying it can't be done; you need to discuss it with them. The banquet coordinators can review with you the pluses and minuses of doing it each way, and help you decide what's best for your group.
In our case, we had a limit on the amount we could spend for each person (since we were charging them, and we needed to make sure we didn't lose a lot of money on the event), so we couldn't just let anyone order anything on the menu. Rather than having the same menu for everyone, we've used a couple different options to address the possibility that not everyone would want the same entree. Some years, we had a set menu, but with two items plated together, one meat and one fish (e.g. filet medallions and crab cakes), figuring that anyone who really didn't want one or the other could trade one for the other with someone at the same table. Sometimes, we had a menu with two or three options for the entree, letting each person specify his/her choice to the server at the start of the meal. The appetizers were platters of several items, as noted above; the rest of the menu (soup and/or salad, sides, and dessert) was the same for everyone.
Any place we went, if anyone had a dietary restriction (vegetarian, etc), the restaurant was happy to provide a substitution. We asked folks to let us know in advance so we could let the restaurant know ahead of time, but if any became known at the dinner, the restaurant was able to handle it. We were never charged extra for doing so.
I just looked up our most recent menu at each place; you can see how the menu options worked.
Cooper's Hawk:6:30 Cocktail Hour, featuring Cash Bar and Hors D’oeuvre Platters
• Mexican Drunken Shrimp
• Chicken Potstickers
7:30 Dinner
Soup: Crab & Lobster Bisque - Loaded with Crab, Lobster, and Shrimp
Salad: Chopped Wedge Salad - Chopped Lettuce with a Balanced Blend of Red Wine Herb Vinaigrette, Creamy Salemville Bleu Cheese Dressing, and Garnished with Red Onion, Sweet Grape Tomatoes, Bleu Cheese Crumbles, and Warm Applewood Smoked Bacon
Entrée: Combination plate of Broiled USDA Beef Filet Medallions and Jumbo Lump Crab Cakes, served with a seasonal vegetable and Mary’s Potatoes
Dessert: Cheesecake with Fresh Strawberries
Beverages: Coffee, Iced Tea, Soft Drinks, and All Organic Tea Forté Products are included.
Pete Miller's:6:30 Hors D’oeuvre Platters (served during the cocktail hour)
• Fried Calamari with Cocktail Sauce
• Firecracker Shrimp
• Steak Quesadillas
7:30 Dinner
Salad: Classic Caesar Salad
Entree: Your server will ask you for your selection of:
• Filet Mignon
• Jumbo Sea Scallops, with Seasonal Homemade Ravioli
• Chicken Marsala
• (Vegetarian entree available on request)
Sides: Garlic Mashed Potatoes, Creamed Spinach with Applewood Smoked Bacon Served Family Style
Dessert: Death by Chocolate and Mascarpone Cheese Cake (a slice of both on each plate)