Aschie 30,
I don't know who you are, but let me put you down as a new hero around here or, with that kind of wisdom, the new sage.
Sorry, I can't really add anything to the Parm thread. I grew up in a town where Tolibia Company dried, cut and ground cheese. On a warm summer day you could tell when they were cutting the cheese.

A healthy stink enveloped the town from about June to September. Sadly, I also grew up on the "green can" and various private lables. Just about any Parm sold in hunks puts a smile on my face....I won't admit to making happy noises. I appreciated your post for information and Queijo's opinion as relevant, but over the top, for my tastes.
I like to think about civil conversation as what I would have at a party in my house. That does not mean a church ice cream social or customer sales meeting where I am trying to be overtly polite. It also does not mean a debate or board room where I may have to say something impolite to prove someone wrong or care less about feelings and more about proof.
At this "cocktail party" I would want people to feel welcome, but they should be able to face a few challenges to their opinions without a complete meltdown and take good nature ribbing on occasion. Scoffing at someone's opinion is acceptable...and, on occassion, keeps the conversation lively. However, I wouldn't want anyone to be so offended that they did not want to come back. And, like many parties, I would rush to the aid of wallflowers being cornered unfairly by the more gregarious or step in when I felt the ribbing to be intentionally mean spirited.
Unfortunately, even though I like to keep a wide circle of friends, some folks who cannot stand the rigor of cocktail party conversation are going to have to remain at home and read or hear about the party the next day because I no longer want them at my parties.
That's my two cents worth on civility.
...back to the food.
On Thursday evening I bunch of us are getting together to BYOB, see Events board. In addition to a bottle of wine, Mchodera and Queijo, can each bring a hunk o'cheese, and we'll settle this over a few glasses of wine (or bottles depending on your constitution

).
Unchain your lunch money!