After consuming many chicken- and country-fried steaks across TX, the South, and the Mid-West, and after much experimentation and trying many recipes, here are my humble suggestions:
Get a cheap cut like round steak. Tenderize it yourself (I use both a tenderizing mallet to get the meat into cutlets, and a Jaccard multi-blade tenderizer for extra penetration.
None of the preparations I've encountered mentioned this, but here's my discovery. Marinade the tenderized meat overnight in buttermilk and beaten eggs (I had maybe 3 lbs. of meat and used a quart of buttermilk and six eggs).
Heat oil to 375 degrees. When ready, dredge marinated meat in seasoned flour (salt and pepper), back in the marinade, and then back in the flour. Fry, turning, until golden brown on each side. Let the oil cool a little, then pour most off (straining and presevering the crunchies). Heat again, adding milk (I tried this with buttermilk, but it was a little TOO tangy, and the seasoned flour until you have a nice brown roux-like gravy, then add salt and pepper to taste.
I've never had CFS this good anywhere: thick and crunchy crust. The bacteria in the buttermilk-marinated meat seems to react when it meets the flourcausing it to rise just as it hits the oil.
Cheers,
Wade
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