We did a night before Bar Mitzvah dinner at Tuscany in Wheeling (dundee and Milwaukee) that was fabulous.
Great food, accomodating staff, and just a short drive from HP.
We also did another large 40ish family dinner at Lovells of Lk Forest that was very elegant.
The were wonderful to work with, and kept within our budget.
Don't be thrown off by the prices printed on their website, they do have some flexibility, and the space is gorgeous, especiallly if your groom or the men are Space nuts, they will love it-
"If you reject the food, ignore the customs, fear the religion and avoid the people, you might better stay home."
~James Michener